Staying Positive
I had someone last week ask me “how do you stay so positive”? I mean you have a full time job , a family , and a child with needs that are so time consuming…
Funny, I never really think about it any other way. When you have children you know things will change. When that child has special needs it changes, but more like a tsunami. It’s all quiet then ….WHAM!!! Notice I didn’t it say in a bad way.
I have always been a planner. That does help in many areas. I learned early on to read information. Now I say it’s overwhelming the information that is out there.
I try to think through what is the current issue and “breath” and not to put myself into stress mode.
And yes I do get stressed, never think I don’t. That is a daily learning curve.
I have learned to ask for help. That is hard. I am a go getter and will do whatever I can to make things better, but I have realized I need support.
I am so blessed to have a husband that I can say anything to. That doesn’t mean that he likes, but honesty and communication is the best medicine. Wording it is the key.
We have to talk about Joshua and his needs, what we want for him and then the planning is huge. We also let Joshua tell us how he feels. Sometimes I have to say it is like “opening the flood gates” and he won’t stop til he is done. What can I say, I strive to teach him to speak his mind.
I have a small network of fiends that accept and support me where I am no matter what is going on. That in itself is a “Gift”.
My faith is my strength. God gave me Joshua to ground me and to put me on the Path that he has chosen for me and I accept that. It has been wonderful and trying at the same time. Rewarding and will continue to be.
That is where I gain my positives. Not saying I don’t get down. I do but I give it back to God. We all have our beliefs and/or vices. I love laughter and learning to listen is a huge positive for me.
Funny ending will be Joshua and I joke back and forth and say “You don’t know their story”….. So be Positive!